Sometimes the holidays can leave a little to be desired in the love department, if you know what I mean.  We get a little preoccupied with all the decorating, shopping, baking, and helping Santa that our spouses can get put on the back-burner for the entire season!  Frankly, that’s the last thing we need.  Keeping the spark alive is the perfect way to stay stress-free during the holidays.


It’s a team effort! The holidays aren’t a one-man (or should I say, “woman”) show.  The more things you can do as a couple, the less animosity you will feel towards your partner.  Although, my husband doesn’t really bake, he does help with the packaging and delivery of baked goods.


Make it a date! I know, I know your schedule is crammed more than ever, but I demand you make time for a date night. Enjoy a nice dinner with just the two of you, no kids!


Go for a run together among Christmas lights. We are very fortunate to have a park with a great running trail that goes all out for Christmas.  There’s something magical about doing our regular runs under the Christmas lights.  It’s almost straight out of a movie – people walking around the park looking at lights drinking hot cocoa and listening to the live band playing Christmas music as we zoom by logging our miles for the day.


Go for a walk. If you’re not a runner, find a park and go for a movie-like stroll with your love.


Spend a night in…alone. Send the kids to grandma’s or a friend’s house for the evening and just enjoy a night at home.  A glass of wine, the twinkling lights from the Christmas tree, and great conversation are the best dates ever.


Do something silly and childlike together. My husband and I have been married for 21 years, and we are always doing silly things like making snow angels together or singing Christmas songs in our best Frank Sinatra voices.


Make your significant other a Christmas countdown calendar. Each day is filled with a surprise. This can be anything from a note to a favorite candy.


Surprise text. Send your love a surprise text during the work day. Keeping it G-rated or not is your choice!


PDA. When you’re doing all that holiday shopping try a little PDA.  Now, I am not a fan of public display of affection gone extreme, but there’s nothing wrong with holding hands and a little peck on the cheek.


Traditions that last. Start a holiday-themed tradition that is just for you and your spouse. For example, make it a tradition to attend a local production of “It’s A Wonderful Life.”  Decide as a couple what it’s going to be and you’ll have something great to look forward to every year.

If you take a little time and effort to make sure the spark stays lit, before you know it you will be having yourself a merry little Christmas in your olden days, happy golden days of yore.