When we think of what kind of man we want ours sons to be when they grow up, we probably think of our husbands or the ideal husband we’ve always dreamed of. Of course we want them to be kind, respectful and caring, but what can we do to help them become the kind of man any woman would be lucky to marry?

Make sure they know they will be held accountable for any actions that go against what you have taught him in regards to respect and courtesy for both men and women. On average a child has already developed their conscience by the age of nine. This means that if they feel comfortable lying, cheating and stealing and find themselves getting away with it, it is highly unlikely these behaviors or ethical views will change.

When raising your son keep in mind anything a man has done that has hurt you or another woman you know and make sure to address such situations with your son and be clear about what consequences result from the negative actions of those men. If you find yourself in a situation where you have been hurt emotionally or are frustrated explain to him why you’re feeling this way and what would help you feel better. This will help instill a natural reaction to be supportive and compassionate when his wife or female children experience similar events.

Raising your son to become a great husband doesn’t just stop at teaching them respect and how to treat a woman. You should also make sure they do different types of chores, not just the “manly” ones. Even if they don’t do the clean the bathroom, do laundry, iron, or do the dishes the way you want, the experience will help them in the long run. This helps show your son that maintaining a house take the whole family helping each other and pitching in. Some family counselors have found that husbands who think it is solely the woman’s job to keep house, do the shopping and cook were raised by stay-at-home moms, so it is important to put extra emphasis on everyone doing chores if you’re a stay-at-home mom.