It’s been one of those
days 2 weeks! I currently have a 10 month old who is teething his molars, and a 2 year old who is doing everything in her power to fight against the potty training. I lack a good nights sleep, and am very tired of cleaning up pee off of the floors.
I’ve noticed a trend happening in the world of “moms” today! Maybe not so much a trend as a step backwards, towards the 50s/60s. We seem to put on a happy face, our matching clothes, and long to paint a picture of perfection for the outside world. I am NOT one of those moms. I have tough days. I spent a good ten minutes sitting on the floor outside of my son’s room crying this morning. And I am not afraid to tell you all about it.
The facade of perfection is leading to new mother’s feeling as if they have to live up to unrealistic expectations. Let me make it perfectly clear for all you new moms sitting on Facebook, stalking pictures of the “ideal mom”. You know the one, she always has perfect hair and makeup, matching Lily Pullitzer outfits for her and her toddler girl, and she managed to complete the ultimate cupcake recipe from Pinterest, all while maintaining a spotless house and balancing that beautiful china on her head. Don’t lie, we’ve all looked at this mom from the outside with envy and thought “How does she do it?!”
I don’t know how she does it. All I know is that I am living day to day in survival mode. And to me, that’s okay! I don’t Pinterest, not because I don’t like it, but because I spend my free hour (during nap time) eating, showering, and folding laundry. I don’t fix my hair most days because I know the sound of the hair dryer will inevitably wake up the infant I have been rocking and begging to nap for the last hour. My house is far from spotless. Been there, tried that, it drove me nutso! I found that the moment I got one mess cleaned up, there was another to tackle. So I let it go. It’s not nasty, but if it smells like febreze and not diapers…hey that’s okay with me!
This too shall pass, and I know that. I am sharing this part of my life with you because it’s okay. It’s perfectly okay to NOT be perfect. I don’t think we tell moms that enough. Breathe, relax, and soak up as much as you can of your babies. Before we know it, they won’t be babies anymore and we will be begging for their attention!